A twinge of pity goes out to those whose birthday parties are cast adrift during the holidays.

A twinge of pity goes out to those whose birthday parties are cast adrift during the holidays.

From late November to early January, birthday children (young and old) bob along in the wake of holiday fun. They never expect to blow out birthday candles in a restaurant on Thanksgiving.

Under the tree, they often find the annual combo Christmas/birthday gift.   

Those with birthdays in early January really get short shrift, like my daughter who was born Jan. 3. Her special day straggles in when most folks are feted out and broke from gift-giving. If people are celebrating anything after New Year’s, it’s the end of home cleanup and the storing of champagne glasses. Offer up a piece of birthday cake and witness the flight toward Weight Watchers like lemmings to the sea.

Does a winter wonderland wedding carry one through a lifetime of hosting anniversary parties with guests who must “double-book” other Hanukah, Christmas or Kwanzaa events for the same night?

Valentine's Day, Flag Day or even Labor Day are easier to compete against. David and I got married on the July 4 weekend, forever imagining the fireworks display to be our very own. If we sneak away for a solo celebration, no one begrudges us a missed barbecue forever.

But major family holidays are sure to backfire, like when “Laurie” got married on Thanksgiving, a wedding day symbolizing the gratitude of two soulmates forever united. But since then she annually complains because her husband wants to spend Thanksgiving with family and friends.

“Don’t you think he should do something special just with me on our anniversary?”

Scratching my un-Solomon-like head, I replied, “Gee, I don’t know.  I think Thanksgiving’s bigger than the both of you.”

Awareness might spark compassion and, correspondingly, special treatment to those whose personal celebrations get pushed aside. The December-born are like chocolate batter being folded into a yellow cake mix. Blending is still delicious, but chocolate is a standout by itself.

Once in a while a person needs her own cake stand.

So light up those candles with individual flair. Whether it’s a birthday or an anniversary set smack dab in the middle of holiday jubilees, let’s raise a toast to those often overlooked celebrants. Happy birthday to you who make the world a better place for being in it, and happy anniversary to you who inspire us with continued marital harmony!

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