Hello everyone! On June 5th, Natasha and I will celebrate our silver wedding anniversary. I believe that twenty-five years of marriage is an accomplishment that needs to be celebrated. And although no marriage is perfect, it certainly can be a wonderful experience. So today, I want to share with you three tips to protecting your marriage to ensure its longevity.
Don’t neglect your personal appearance! One of the worse things you can do in a marriage is to begin to let yourself go. I believe that at every age and stage of life you should strive to be the best you, that you can be. I am convinced that taking care of your health and good grooming skills go a long way in protecting the longevity of your marriage. The Bible says in Ephesians 5:29, “After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he FEEDS and CARES for it, just as Christ does the church.” My question is how much effort are you putting into looking good for your spouse on a regular basis?
Don’t create a bond with the wrong person! Creating an emotional bond or letting your guard down with the wrong person can be a death blow to your marriage. When you begin to feel comfortable sharing the intimate details of your life with someone you’re attracted to, you’re putting your marriage in serious jeopardy. Samson learned this principle the hard way in Judges 16:18-21, “When Delilah saw that he had told her everything, she sent word to the rulers of the Philistines, come back once more; he has told me everything. So the rulers of the Philistines returned with the silver in their hands. (19) Having put him to sleep on her lap, she called a man to shave off the seven braids of his hair, and so began to subdue him. And his strength left him.” Protecting the longevity of your marriage means keeping your guard up around the wrong people.
Eliminate unnecessary risk. Jesus’ encourages us in Matthew 6:13 to pray, “And lead us not into temptation…” In other words, you ought to pray daily for God to help you avoid unnecessary temptations. I’m a firm believer that there are some temptations that we bring on ourselves because they are one hundred percent avoidable. If you want to protect the longevity of your marriage, make it a point to avoid inappropriate places and conversations.
Yes, twenty-five years of marriage is a huge accomplishment. It has not been without its challenges, but is has been well worth the journey. I believe all of our marriages can last the test of time, if we refuse to neglect our personal appearance, decline to create a bond with the wrong person, and eliminate unnecessary risk. I leave you with the words of Jesus found in Matthew 19:6, “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” Blessings!!!